Opinions You Never Asked For

So now that I've discussed Rule 1, I'll go ahead and give my two cents about Rules 2 and 3. In case you've forgotten, I'll restate the Rules before beginning. Rule 1: Dating someone for a month (or even three or four) is not sufficient time to have decided that you're gonna marry that person and to start planning your wedding. Rule 2: Marrying the first person you date out of high school or even anyone you date before you're at least twenty is usually stupid (not always). Rule 3: Having your wedding planned before you're even "engaged" is a mockery. #oynaf So discussing Rule 2 is a little trickier because it's not as black and white to me as Rule 1 is, so let me paint you a little picture. In high school I dated a great guy for about eight or nine months; he was two years older than me, and he left on a mission half way through my junior year. We wrote back and forth, I dated other people, he came home, we went on a date, we went our sep...

Forewarning: if you got married really young or really quickly, this post might not be for you. So I'm obviously not married, but I'm obviously not an idiot either; so here's my view on marriage (particularly at BYU). I'll start by laying some of my ground rules: 1. Dating someone for a month (or even three or four) is not sufficient time to have decided that you're gonna marry that person and to start planning your wedding. 2. Marrying the first person you date out of high school or even anyone you date before you're at least twenty is usually stupid (not always). 3. Having your wedding planned before you're even engaged is a mockery. #oynaf So let's start with the first point. Here at BYU/BYU-I as well as in the Idaho/Utah culture of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, you see a lo t —A  LOT —of people getting engaged after two months, maybe even as long as four. Then they get married two months later, so I have to assume that th...